Striving to be better is always a good thing. But it doesn’t always happen. We are all works in progress and in a crazy, busy and unfair world, striving to be such is not always top of mind.
So, let’s make it easy on ourselves, shall we? Nine easy habits to keep in mind as we go through our daily pursuits. Happy or sad, good or bad. We can do this, yes?
1. Our needs vs. our wants vs. what we actually deserve.
I struggle with this. When shopping at my favorite local boutique, I always find something I want and often make excuses for it to suddenly become a need. The universe laughs at me with this because then my car breaks down and needs a repair. The lesson learned? If it’s not a need, don’t find a reason for it to become one until it actually does. This applies to relationships and other past times too.
2. Believe in the good intentions.
Nine times out of ten, we’ve gotta give people the benefit of the doubt. Give them second chances. Don’t let them burn you to the third degree, but love them with kindness.
3. “No,” it’s not that bad after all.
When I was a kid, I hated the word “no.” Didn’t we all? But sometimes, saying “no” to family and friends to take a day or an afternoon for yourself is more than what the doctor ordered. Learn what you need and what you don’t. Say yes to the things you do need, want and try new things too. But try not to feed into the things that take away from your happiness. Life is short. And more importantly, this is YOUR short life, do what pleases you.
4. Cope healthily.
Drinking, complaining and isolating do not apply here. As we grow older, problems don’t change or get harder, but they do change. If you don’t have a coping mechanism for these problems (first-world problems do not apply here either), then our issues will only escalate.
5. Have a hobby.
This one bleeds into number four a little bit. Find things that are yours. Things that please you and makes you happy. If you don’t know what that would be, then keep trying new things until something sticks. And, it’s okay to invest (within reason) in your hobby. You’ll be investing time and energy into it anyways…might as well go all in if you can.
6. One is not the loneliest number that you ever knew.
Be it grabbing a quick bite to eat or between relationships. Being alone provides the opportunity to explore ourselves, or just get some good old fashioned alone time in the hustle and bustle of our lives.
7. Go the extra mile, passionately.
Going the extra mile takes hard work. A lot of hard work. But working for something you really want, something you really really want (with maybe a burning passion) is worth taking the chance on. We need to take chances on the things we love. What is mine? Writing. So here I am on a Saturday night writing this blog post. Do I mind? Not one bit.
8. Think for yourself.
Don’t worry about society. Don’t worry about your friends and don’t worry about what other people will think. Dig into what is important to you, into what you believe to be right and true. Side note: Don’t forget to respect what others think too. It is not your way or the highway.
9. Let it go, let it go. (Forgive the Frozen reference.)
Worrying about a boyfriend/girlfriend not loving us anymore, getting turned down for a job or twisting our ankle is not going to do anybody any good. If it happens, shake it off and move on. Life happens and it is no use worrying about or stressing about it. Excessive worrying is about as useful as decaffeinated coffee.